First impressions count. Many closet curlies are married to a flat iron because they think men prefer the smooth, straight look over curls or kinks. And when you can maneuver your mane in either direction, you have the option of changing your visual impression when meeting someone new.

But should you? And would it really make a difference?

To find out, I embarked on an unscientific social experiment. Newly single in New York City, I joined a popular online dating service and posted two profiles. They were identical in every way—except one. The first profile included a picture of my hair flat-ironed straight. For the other, my hair was naturally curly. After one month showcasing the straight profile and the next month curly, more than twice as many men responded to the straight look.

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• The straight profile was viewed 1,606 times for the month, while the curly one received 1,063 views during the month it was posted
• The flat-ironed look 181 emails, compared with 60 for the curly profile
• On the flirtatious side, the stick-straight profile received 120 winks, while curly locks caught winks from 60 men
• In about 10 percent of the dates, hair made a difference, while confidence was the driving factor in the remainder of the connections

But this experiment is far from over. There’s a twist. On my dates, the plan was to find out what they really think when I show up as the opposite of what they expect. If they reach out to my straight profile, I would meet them as a curly, and vice versa. Would my hairstyle really affect their attraction? It was an adventure that was full of surprises. My one rule: I vowed to only date men I was truly interested in.

Whether you play it straight or crank up the curls, first impressions do count. But I’ve learned it’s also what you bring to the surface that really shines through.

In a study of 308 Facebook users, researchers discovered that people who are more prone to jealousy will find Facebook just reinforces that jealousy.

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When the topic of soul mates comes up, people are always wanting to know if they really exist and if they will ever find theirs! There are plenty of blogs about finding your soul mate and lots of mystique about the topic.

Although we agree that finding your soul mate can be a wonderful gift and that they really do exist, we have a little different idea of what soul mates are.
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It’s a fact.

Arguments happen in relationships….

There’s nothing new about this.

The challenge is…

What do you do when you have a disagreement or difference of opinion with someone?

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